I ain't lookin like no slapper

I just had to share this interview because it was doubly refreshing to hear true wisdom and common sense coming from such a young and undeniably talented lady.  Generally speaking, I found her comments to be authentic, encouraging and inspiring.  I am sharing this in the hope that something she says is beneficial to you too.  Personally speaking (as a singer who also has no desire to crawl across a stage buck-naked or pseudo-buck-naked), I am grateful for her courage and boldness because (whether she realizes it or not) she is pioneering.   

"Exploiting yourself sexually is not a good look." <----- THAT is my favorite thing she said.  

Usually, it's Adele's vocals that dominate conversation about the British singer. But the 23-year-old's physique became Topic A when Karl Lagerfeld told Metro newspaper: "She is a little too fat." The comment sparked outrage and an apology from Lagerfeld.  "With high-profile critics like this, how does Adele herself feel about her figure? When Anderson Cooper recently interviewed the star for a "60 Minutes" profile, Adele said she rarely thinks about her body image and feels no pressure to be a "skinny-mini" or wear revealing, hyper-sexual clothing.  "Even if I did have, you know, a 'Sports Illustrated' body, I'd still wear elegant clothes," she said. "I ain't lookin' like no 'slapper' (slang for a promiscuous woman)."   -excerpt from CBS NEWS  

THIS: I ain't looking like no slapper...

has become my favourite* phrase.  

Don't you be looking like no slappa' either! OK?

XOXO ♥ Sharita

*for Adele and Brits everywhere ;D

who you are at home is real... everything else is fake

Hate it or love it, ladies and gentlemen... the statement is true.  

I've been thinking about this post for a few days now...  Looking at myself and my expressions from day to day and place to place...  Am I consistently being my true self  or am I wearing a mask?  These are tough but very important questions to ask along this road of authentic living.  

For me, a disparity cannot exist between who I am at home and who I am out and about.  "Who you are at home is real..."  I treasure this simple statement because it is a reminder to be my best self always and regardless* of location.      

So who am I at home?  That's the place to start because how I behave within the confines of my home is my highest and truest expression.  First, I observe how I behave when I am all alone.  Secondly, how I behave with my family (can be roomies or whoever else lives with you).  Am I happy and chipper?  Melancholy and morose?  A nagging gossiper or uplifting cheerleader?  This simple home evaluation does me a world of good and I hope you will allow it to help you too.  

Evaluate yourself at home over the next few days... Don't ask anybody (to tell you) how you behave at home.  Pay attention to the way you express yourself in your abode.  Don't fake it and turn on the charm over the next few days either.  Keep it real so that you can get a firm grasp on who you are at home and whether or not you like what you see.  

*Shout out to all my people who use the non-word irregardless.