word with the wise wednesday: my youngest brother

1. What important life lessons have you learned so far?
Always be nice to people-- no matter what.  What goes around really does come around and you never know who you will need or what will happen on down the road.  So be nice and do not retaliate.  

2. How is the world today different or similar to what it was like when you were a child?

The main thing I've noticed is TV programs.  When I was younger, cartoons were just for kids, but now half of the cartoons are for adults.  I've also noticed an increase in violence and profanity.  

3. What has been your hardest lesson to date?
Money management.  I've had to train myself to save more and spend less... not to go out and buy something just because I want it.  

4.  What is the one thing you want people to remember about you?
That I was always willing to help others.  

And help others he did.  If you haven't already, you can read my previous post to see my dedication to Josh aka Joscwar.  The spelling of his nickname has always been hilarious to me.  My other brother, Greg came up with the spelling.  Originally, I wanted to spell it Joswar, but Greg insisted on adding the letter C then clarified that "the C is silent."  This still makes me laugh to this day!!!  I interviewed both of my brothers for Word with the Wise Wednesday right around the same time yet it never felt right to publish Josh's ...until now.  Josh died at age 24 but he really was a wise, old soul.  I love him.  I miss him and yet I can still feel his presence in a very deep and spiritual sense.  Right now I'm in my hometown of Chattanooga, Tennessee, where there is an abundance of love and support from family and friends.  For that, I am truly grateful.  I am learning to flow like water with the current of life.  I will keep choosing to move forward with a smile on my face and faith in my heart.  I hope you are blessed by the wisdom of Joscwar. 

Be sweet!

in memory of joscwar

me, Joscwar and Gregor 

Today my youngest brother died.  

He was the most kind-hearted, content and genuinely accepting person I know.  I'm not just saying that because he's dead either.  You know how people tend to wax nostalgic and say all manner of un-truth after a person is dead?  Well, that ain't the case here.  Just keepin' it real even in the midst of grief!  

Joshua was 24 years old.  Still a baby in my mind.  You see this post is titled "in memory of joscwar" because we (me and my siblings) always had nicknames for each other.  Each of us had several nicknames and for some reason, Joscwar (pronounced "joe-swar") is what stuck for Josh.  I referred to him as Joscwar when he answered the phone during our talk last week.  He was doing so well.  Working a great job downtown, living on his own, paying his bills, saving money, driving (which was a huge deal because he had seizures throughout his life) and maturing.  When we talked last week, I was so happy for him.  So proud of him.  I remember asking him about his apartment and whether or not he was happy with the area he chose.  He told me that it was a great choice and elaborated on safety features, mature neighbors and little to no foolywank.  Joscwar told me that he was glad he chose this location verses another more popular area for people his age.  I told him that he was so wise for his age.  He was an old soul.  As a toddler he wore suits (by choice!), carried his bible and talked to everyone we came across.  I ain't jokin!  Back in the day when young men bagged your groceries and took them out to your car, he'd talk their ear off!  He was the best listener, slow to speak and always encouraging and uplifting others.  He loved to make us laugh.  And didn't mind looking silly in the process.  He valued family, friends and peace.  

My other brother Darryl (remember that from Newhart?) nicknamed Gregor found Josh today.  Did I mention that today is Gregor's birthday?  Yeah... file that under things that break my heart.  But then I remember that brokenness and hope live in the same room... because they hold hands.  I wrote that post back in October when I found out that I was no longer pregnant.  The same shock that I felt then, I feel today; however, the shock and pain about the miscarriage (I dislike that word but can think of no other synonym!) hurts less today.  So I know this pain won't last forever.  I know Josh is happy, safe and complete in a way that defies description.  I know I will see him again one day.  The fact that he was secure in his faith and had a strong relationship with the Lord gives me much peace.  The passage of scripture I cling to in the face of death is 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18.  It is my reminder that there is hope.  Always.    

a note about stereotypes

image credit

They're both convicted felons, actually.

But above all, they are people with hopes, dreams, hurts, pain, joys and fears...
Just like you and me.  



So my note about stereotypes is this:  
Let's stop using them.  

ze winner

According to the True Random Number Generator, Ginger (comment #8) is the winner! WOOHOO!!!!!  Aren't giveaways so fun?!?!?!  YAY Ginger!!!! Thank you all for entering and many thanks to our sweet sponsor, Harley and Maudes!  

 ginger said...

Happy Birthday! When my kids were little, my oldest asked why Jesus didn't get a birthday cake -- so we made him one and sang Happy Birthday. It was a tradition that continued every year. The memory of that and my daughter's birthday, which is Dec 21, will always be tied closely together.

11/07/2011 8:36 PM

CONGRATULATIONS, GINGER!!!!!
(I will be messaging you on Facebook here in just a few seconds) 

It so warmed my heart to read all of your comments.  I have a few new songs to check out too!  Thank you again for your participation.  Luvuall!!! ;)

still laughing

I am still laughing from yesterday... and singing "babaaaaaayyyyyy" like Rudy from the Cosby Show clip.  I want to share another funny video (that I forgot to post yesterday).  It is NOT what you think it is!  I laugh EVERY SINGLE TIME I WATCH THIS and I dance just like the curly-haired girl in the purple dress.  I hope it makes you howl with laughter like I do: 

"Laughter is an instant vacation." 

-Milton Berle

Have you entered the Harley and Maudes jewelry giveaway yet? 

The contest runs through midnight tonight.  

If you haven't entered, click here or scroll down two more posts! 

Have a wonderful day!

laughter does the heart good

Here are a few things that make me laugh:


This picture

The smoking shoes (one day soon I will blog about this story involving me and my brother.) It is one of my all time favorite stories.  


Brak singing "I'm driving down Highway 40 in my big ol' pick up truck"

Fleeing through the mountains of Kathmandu in a taxi... being tossed from one side of the backseat to the other with my good friend, Jenna, while The Vengaboys' song "We Like to Party" is blasting full throttle.  We giggled as we slid back and forth and shook our booties the entire ride.  


The Diarrhea Dog Poop Slip & Slide ... yet another story begging to be told


"Come in off the ledge and get cha crystal..." #hilariousconversationswithholly


This commercial  by Flea Market Montgomery

This phrase: "random dog whistle siren sounds" from this post just cracks me up


"who gone hit dem notes?"  #musicianshenanigans

3 year old explains the plot of Star Wars Episode IV

This Volkswagen commercial

This clip from the Cosby show .... "babaaaaaaaaaaaay"


I hope you are laughing!!!  
I'm super silly so it doesn't take much to make me laugh :)
What makes you laugh???


Laughter... it works like better than medicine.




p.s. If you haven't entered the giveaway yet, click here or scroll down to the next post! :)

giveaway day!

Howdy folks!  Today is the day for my FIRST giveaway!  SO exciting!!! 

This giveaway is courtesy of Harley & Maudes.  Do you know who they are?  They make and design "GLAM & SouLFuL JuNk JeWeLRy."  I have a few friends who rock their jewelry and when I finally went to a Harley & Maudes party earlier this month, I like'ta lost my mind up in there.  SO many adorable, unique pieces of jewelry.  Thousands of options for custom pieces.  Every design is one of a kind.  Click here to see online pics of Harley & Maudes fab jewelry!


Harley & Maudes is owned and operated by the sweetest chicas, Lisa and Kem.  If you live in my neck of the woods, you can check out their Facebook events page  for the next jewelry party.  If you're not in my neck of the woods, they will make and ship your trinket to ya!  See their online pics for inspiration and ideas.  Now, let's talk about today's giveaway, shall we?

It's a purty-ful (country for pretty) necklace:

One side reads "live your life" 

the other side reads "above the fray."

All the charms are removable so 

you have the option of rocking this jewelry 

several different ways!

Isn't that ingeniously awesome and adorable jewelry?!?!  

This necklace could give an already fab outfit that extra pop...

It could be a Christmas gift or birthday present for someone you love.  

What you do with it, my love, is entirely up to you...

To enter the giveaway, answer the following question in the comments section below this blog post: My favorite holiday song is _______.  (If you don't have a favorite holiday song, just enter your favorite song.  If you don't have a favorite song, well... you can type your favorite color...bless your  heart.)

Contest runs through Wednesday, November 9, 2011 at midnight (CST).  

Winner will be selected by true random sequence number generator (what a long name!) @random.org.  Winner will be announced sometime Thursday, November 10, 2011.  

Isn't this so exciting?!?!?!?!?!  

Muchas gracias Harley and Maudes!!!!!